I discovered An American Marriage last month when the author, Tayari Jones, came to Harrisburg. She delivered the opening keynote for the 2018 Book Festival at the Midtown Scholar (worth a stop, if you’re ever in the area). At the last minute, I bought a ticket, drove downtown, and then waited in line. I received my copy of the novel on my way in the door, and then proceeded to the front row and waited an hour to hear the author speak. I began reading immediately, and was introduced to Roy Hamilton. As I turned the pages, I learned that Roy was wrongly accused […]
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Love is an Amusement Park
In my last post, I ranted about how you shouldn’t give away your personal power by giving up on love. I’d like to expand on that with the following analogy… Love (and marriage) is like an Amusement Park. Imagine a child receiving the news that s/he will be spending the day at an amusement park. The child is delighted, right? Because amusement parks are exciting! Love is exciting. Picture the child arriving at the gate and eagerly paying the entrance fee. Love also requires you give something in order to enjoy the experience. Loose in the park, the child wonders, […]
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Stress And Divorce, My Interview With Frank Wood
When it comes to divorce, the existence of stress goes without saying. We talk about it, of course… but we often don’t delve too deeply into the topic. Recently, I became acquainted with Frank Wood, a psychologist with a special focus on stress. We sat down for discussion about stress and divorce, and I’m happy to share it with you today. In the video below, Dr. Wood and I discuss stress as it relates to divorce– when it happens, who it affects, why it matters, how it persists and what you can do about it. Watch the interview to learn more, […]
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Relationship Regrets… I Won’t Do That Again
Recently, I found myself retelling an old love story and I uttered the words, “I shouldn’t have done that.” And, while it’s true that I shouldn’t have done the thing that I did, I was immediately reminded of the experience that followed the thing and the lessons learned because of the thing. I don’t want to live with relationship regrets. After some thought, I changed my words to say, “I won’t do that again.” The experience caused me to reflect on other potential relationship regrets: the issues of my past relationships, and the lessons I learned as a result. Following is a list of […]
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A Relationship is a Crystal Ball
What does a relationship have in common with a crystal ball? In the beginning, relationships can be amazing. Everything seems perfect. It’s as if the partnership is like a glorious crystal ball in which a couple can see not only their past and their future (one can never glimpse the present, it is a fleeting moment), but also themselves. In the beginning, everything is so clear and so beautiful and so simple. …And then life happens. Despite the best efforts to keep things under control, tempers flare and emotions run high between those whose hearts are interwoven. As a result, the crystal ball is marred. Never again will things be so […]
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