Discovering The Other Woman

It’s been eleven years since I found out about The Other Woman in my marriage… On June 6, 2006, I went to my soon-to-be-ex-husband’s office to sign some documents pertaining our divorce. It had been about two weeks since we’d decided to separate, and since The Decision, all of our discussions had been productive.    After our signatures were notarized, I felt relieved and excited. “Let’s have dinner to celebrate,” I suggested.   My husband shook his head.   “C’mon!” I tried again. “We signed the papers. We’re getting closer to a divorce.”   He shook his head again. “No, […]

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Meant to Be

What’s Meant To Be…

Was it Meant To Be? The night before I began my senior year of high school, my redheaded boyfriend and I broke up. I was heartbroken (funny how these things look so much different after a couple decades). About a week later, I received a wisdom-filled letter from my great aunt. “If it’s meant to be, it will,” she wrote. “And if it’s not, nothing will make it work.” She also suggested I take time to lick my wounds and focus on One Day At A Time while my heart healed. I found comfort in her words. Eventually I ran out of […]

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Marriage is like a plane. Divorce is like a water landing.

Divorce is Like a Water Landing

Marriages are like planes. Divorce is like a water landing. On Sunday night, I watched the movie, Sully. For those unfamiliar, the film chronicles the story of (and the story behind) the US Airways plane that made an emergency landing in the Hudson River in January 2009. Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger was the captain of that airplane. It was his expertise and quick thinking that saved the lives of those on board. To those on the plane, those in the media, and those watching at home, Sully was a hero. But his heroism didn’t come without criticism. Industry experts dubbed the incident a […]

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I got married

I Got Married! Yes, Really.

Remember when I said, “I’m not anti-marriage“? Here’s proof… On January 14, 2017, I tied the knot with my domestic partner of the past two years. We self-united in a small and simple ceremony, surrounded by our closest family members. One of our friends played the cello. Another facilitated the exchange of our vows and rings and later served as our photographer. It was simple, yet elegant. And overall, it was my favorite of all the weddings I’ve attended. The comparison between my first and second weddings has been interesting. This time, I feel more confident. About everything. I’m not suggesting […]

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Author Interview with Lisa Thomson

Recently, I read The Great Escape:  A Girl’s Guide to Leaving a Marriage by Lisa Thomson. As you might have guessed by the title, The Great Escape provides a lot of hints and tips for women looking to start a new, unmarried, chapter of their lives. I found the book to be both relatable as well as informative. Today, I’m excited to share an interview with Lisa Thomson. Let’s get to it… Lisa, thanks for taking some time for an interview with Relative Evolutions. Your book, The Great Escape: A Girl’s Guide to Leaving a Marriage is the perfect blend […]

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