The GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy

My parents had a good divorce.  My ex-husband and I had a good divorce.  But, what does that mean?  For years, I’ve been writing about the importance of a good divorce, and I realize it means something a little different to everyone who goes through the process. Recently, I considered the common elements of a good divorce.  How can I address this topic in a more effective and efficient manner?  The answer came to me a few weeks ago.  Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy: G is for Goals.  As you enter the Land of […]

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Self-Love and My Solo Vacation

I spent the first week of October on Cape Cod.  Alone.  And it was beyond wonderful. Unlike last year’s trip, which was haunted by fading (sometimes painful) memories of love-gone-wrong, this vacation was All About Me.  I took advantage this freedom in a variety of ways….     I began most mornings with a barefoot sunrise stroll.   I spent hours engrossed in oh-so-appropriate beach reading.   I made friends with various creatures…   …including a LOT of seals…   …and a seagull who insisted upon sharing my onion rings.   I dressed up and took myself out to fancy […]

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Separation Ceremonies

I think we need to start holding Divorce Ceremonies. Like in that movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, when Diane Lane’s marriage falls apart her friends get her a cake and they say “weddings begin with cake and they should end with cake too.” (or something to that effect). I love that!! And I want to take it a few steps further.

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