The GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy

My parents had a good divorce.  My ex-husband and I had a good divorce.  But, what does that mean?  For years, I’ve been writing about the importance of a good divorce, and I realize it means something a little different to everyone who goes through the process. Recently, I considered the common elements of a good divorce.  How can I address this topic in a more effective and efficient manner?  The answer came to me a few weeks ago.  Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy: G is for Goals.  As you enter the Land of […]

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Self-Love and My Solo Vacation

I spent the first week of October on Cape Cod.  Alone.  And it was beyond wonderful. Unlike last year’s trip, which was haunted by fading (sometimes painful) memories of love-gone-wrong, this vacation was All About Me.  I took advantage this freedom in a variety of ways….     I began most mornings with a barefoot sunrise stroll.   I spent hours engrossed in oh-so-appropriate beach reading.   I made friends with various creatures…   …including a LOT of seals…   …and a seagull who insisted upon sharing my onion rings.   I dressed up and took myself out to fancy […]

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Separation Ceremonies

I think we need to start holding Divorce Ceremonies. Like in that movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, when Diane Lane’s marriage falls apart her friends get her a cake and they say “weddings begin with cake and they should end with cake too.” (or something to that effect). I love that!! And I want to take it a few steps further.

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A Better Way to Wed

I have this theory about why so many marriages fail.  Actually, I have several theories (please refer to Why Marry? and Why Marry? continued)… So, one of my other theories has to do with the way we treat weddings- as a society: When a couple decides to marry, they throw an engagement party (yay!) The pending matrimony is announced in the newspapers (fame!) Then, sometime before the wedding, someone throws another party for the Bride (yay!) As well, someone throws a party for the Groom (hurray!) The couple instructs everyone what gifts to buy them by registering at their favorite […]

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