karma

Trust Karma

After the end of a relationship, there often lurks a nagging question about when The Ex will get what’s coming to him/her. You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? That’s right, Karma. When we think about karma, we tend to make assumptions. We hold expectations about what it means, and what it will look like. Overall we ask, “When will justice be served?” Sometimes, it’s a long wait. At least, as far as we can tell from where we stand. And I know it can be frustrating. But, I think the general idea of Karma works. That’s to say, “what […]

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Stitching My Life Together

This post isn’t about divorce. Not precisely, anyway. When I was married the first time, my then-husband expected me to perform more domestic “wifely duties,” and I refused. I still refuse (thankfully, Husband #2 is much more accepting of this trait). My house isn’t spotless. I don’t enjoy cooking. I don’t feel at home in the garden. In general, I find domestic chores to be an annoyance, at best. But today something funny happened. I was changing the sheets on my bed. After wrestling with the fitted sheet (a task which caused me to curse more than once), I spread […]

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Word of Intention

It’s Official: My 2017 Word of Intention

Last year’s Word of Intention was “Trust,” and it was appropriate. Yet, for me, 2016 proved to be a year of eye-opening education. I sought and gained a multitude of knowledge applicable to various areas of my life. Such information allowed me to expand my mind… to think… to plan… to strategize… to make choices…  And that was all well and good, and appropriate. But as the year came to a close, I felt critical of myself. You see, in all my learning and thinking, I fell short on some of my personal aspirations for the year. Hence, my goal for […]

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The Week Between…

The week between Christmas and New Years always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement. But now I’m not so sure. The week between Christmas and New Years is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And as we count down the days, […]

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Healthy Divorce Is On The Horizon

Yesterday I attended the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium in Blue Bell, PA. And it was awesome. I’m still feeling a little… what’s word? high?… from the experience, which was more like an immersion. Between 7:30 and 4:30pm, I was surrounded by more than 130 other professionals who were equally dedicated to healthy divorce. For the first time ever, I told someone “I love divorce,” and was met with the response, “Me too!” Wow. And, yay! Throughout the day, I was inspired and encouraged. I listened to a presentation from Dr. William Doherty in which he discussed divorce ambivalence and the value of discernment counseling for […]

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