Word of Intention

It’s Official: My 2017 Word of Intention

Last year’s Word of Intention was “Trust,” and it was appropriate. Yet, for me, 2016 proved to be a year of eye-opening education. I sought and gained a multitude of knowledge applicable to various areas of my life. Such information allowed me to expand my mind… to think… to plan… to strategize… to make choices…  And that was all well and good, and appropriate. But as the year came to a close, I felt critical of myself. You see, in all my learning and thinking, I fell short on some of my personal aspirations for the year. Hence, my goal for […]

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The Week Between…

The week between Christmas and New Years always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement. But now I’m not so sure. The week between Christmas and New Years is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And as we count down the days, […]

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Healthy Divorce Is On The Horizon

Yesterday I attended the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium in Blue Bell, PA. And it was awesome. I’m still feeling a little… what’s word? high?… from the experience, which was more like an immersion. Between 7:30 and 4:30pm, I was surrounded by more than 130 other professionals who were equally dedicated to healthy divorce. For the first time ever, I told someone “I love divorce,” and was met with the response, “Me too!” Wow. And, yay! Throughout the day, I was inspired and encouraged. I listened to a presentation from Dr. William Doherty in which he discussed divorce ambivalence and the value of discernment counseling for […]

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The Brangelina Divorce Broke My Heart

I was never a huge fan of Brangelina, though there were elements about the couple that I found charming. I liked the fact that they’d adopted children. I thought it was cool that Shiloh was born in Africa and later they were so accepting of her desire to be called “John.” I found their wedding story to be incredibly sweet. They’d been together a long time (especially in Hollywood Years) and they’d weathered plenty of tabloid storms. Still, I never quite fell under their spell. I knew they weren’t especially special nor magical. Brad and Angelina were simply two human beings sharing their lives. […]

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Get Close to Pain

I write a lot about forgiveness and letting go because I believe these tactics are critical to bringing us through our pain. But today I want to write about pain itself, and why we all need to get close to pain. Getting close to pain is pretty much the last thing anyone wants to do. We humans avoid it in all kinds of clever ways. We overindulge in food, drugs and sex. We throw ourselves into the role of parent, friend, family member or employee, and in doing so we ignore who we are. We abstain from genuine connection with […]

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