Poisonous Fairytales

Little girls have been raised to believe that Prince Charming will tirelessly travel to every house for miles and miles until he finds his true love… this, after mice are magically transformed into horses. We’re programmed to believe that those who love us (parents, siblings, lovers, fairy godmothers) will do whatever it takes… whatever that means.

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The Stepmother: What Do You Really Know About Her?

Have I ever mentioned the Co-Parenting Matters Blog Talk Radio show? Shame on me if I haven’t. Co-Parenting Matters is hosted by Deesha and Mike from Co-Parenting 101 as well as Taliba Mbonisi of WeParent. On Sunday nights, they feature appropriate guests to discuss issues related to effective co-parenting.

Last night’s show centered on Stepmothers. Earlier in the week, Deesha interviewed Wednesday Martin, PhD, author of the book Stepmoster: A New Look At Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel and Act the Way We Do. During the show, the hosts were joined by Sherry Thomas, Heather Hetchler (Café Smom) and Brigette Lemos-Norman (In the Blender). The panel tackled myths, expectations and struggles.

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TDE Gets a Stepfamily

It’s no secret that I’m not a big fan of weddings. Over lunch last week, I asked some of Boyfriend’s co-workers why they attend such events. The answers varied:
“To meet drunken bimbos”
“To support the couple” (funny how soooo many people show up to “support” the couple at the wedding, but then disappear during a divorce when people really need support)
“To meet new people”
“To see people I haven’t seen in a long time”
“They’re fun. It’s a big party with drinks and dancing!”

On June 26, I attended a wedding because I was the daughter of the bride…

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Book: Stepmonster…

I’m not a stepmother, but I play one every other weekend.

Given the fact that I live with a man who has children, I was delighted to read and see myself in Stepmoster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel and Act the Way We Do, by Wednesday Martin, Ph.D. What a relieving, validating and motivating read!

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