Guest Post: 5 Things I’ve Learnt After 10 Years Working With Divorcees

For more than a decade now, I’ve been helping people through their divorces. To the outside world, I complete legal documents, talk clients through the process and do all that I can to make sure that everything is processed as quickly as possible. As any professional working within this sector will tell you, though, your job description and your formal roles are only half the story: helping your clients through what is a tremendously stressful time is really your paramount concern Whilst no two individuals – and therefore no two divorces – are the same, experience has taught me that […]

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Divorce Lawyer Ramblings, An Interview with Frank Morris of Divorce Lawyers for Men

I discovered Divorce Lawyers for Men on Instagram. I was intrigued not only by the name, but also the helpful content they published. So, I asked for an interview, and a few months ago Frank Morris took some time out of his busy schedule to talk with me. After working around some technical difficulties, I was finally able to ask my first question: How did you get started in this line of work? “My first major interest in divorce was a complex male custody case back in 1984,” he told me. “And in those days nobody was doing male custody […]

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Personal Boundaries: Why, When and How to Protect Yourself

Recently, Husband #2 and I changed the locks at our home. It was time. Actually, it was long overdue. Like, years overdue. After the upgrade, the deadbolt and the door handle are both the same color. And the door latches without having to pull it extra-hard. And the deadbolt doesn’t stick. Overall, it was worth the effort. But this isn’t a blog about home improvement projects. And I’m not just talking about my house here. This post is about personal boundaries. Like physical boundaries (locks, fences, walls, mountains, rivers, etc), personal boundaries create space around you and provide protection from external threats. […]

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Your ex does not deserve your anger

Your Ex Does Not Deserve Your Anger

  Wounded women (and other fans of Carrie Underwood), sing it with me: “I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped-up four wheel drive… Carved my name into his leather seeeeats I took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights, slashed a hole in all four tires. Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats…” Carrie’s song Before He Cheats hit the charts the year I got divorced. It brings to mind not only my ex-husband, but a couple ex-boyfriends as well. Of course I’ve fantasized about taking the kind of revenge described in the song. And according […]

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Badmouthing Your Ex

Why You Should Stop Badmouthing Your Ex

A favorite pastime for those enduring divorce is to sit around with our besties and Trash The Ex.  Badmouthing your ex feels good! The ex-related expletives bring a sense of purpose or confidence.  Perhaps the practice offers a sense of release so that one can proceed with a clearer head.  Either way, it feels good to vent among those who are closest and offer support. I get it.  And I’ve done it.  But I don’t condone it.  At least, not to excess. Let me explain:  I could write an entire blog post about what a terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad person […]

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