Old Photos

What To Do With Old Photos

My family wasn’t good at keeping albums. Over the years, our collection of old photos piled up in a cardboard Avon box that lived in the attic. Every so often, the bulging box would make an appearance and my mom, sister and I would paw through the printed pics. We’d smile and reminisce as we passed around images of days gone by. Pictures from my parents’ wedding were in that box too. They were protected by a brown paper bag at the bottom of the pile. Sometimes we’d bring those into the light as well. For me, those photos were simply […]

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Reasons to Block Your Ex on Social Media

Social media has added a wonderful/awful element to our lives. We’re digitally connected while physically estranged from those we’re close to. We can easily become angrily (or amorously) entwined with people we’ve never met. And, we can both feed and receive information to/from The Ex. [Sigh] There are various reasons why separated couples might choose to remain connected on social media. The most popular reason is likely that they share children and social channels provide casual connection for all family members. And naturally, some couples who split amicably choose to remain friends and therefore keep their social connection. But there […]

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self love challenge

5 Day Self Love Challenge

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, and this can be a crappy time of year for anyone who’s not currently attached. There are many alternative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. For instance, Eve Ensler’s V-Day Movement launched on February 14, 2012. And Single Lady Liz Lemon (30 Rock) chose to celebrate Anna Howard Shaw Day instead on the traditional Day of Love. This year, I’m opting for an alternative as well. I’m planning to spend 5 days indulging in Self Love, and you’re invited to join me. Because, let’s be honest, the only lifelong relationship we’re guaranteed to have is the one we have […]

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I got married

I Got Married! Yes, Really.

Remember when I said, “I’m not anti-marriage“? Here’s proof… On January 14, 2017, I tied the knot with my domestic partner of the past two years. We self-united in a small and simple ceremony, surrounded by our closest family members. One of our friends played the cello. Another facilitated the exchange of our vows and rings and later served as our photographer. It was simple, yet elegant. And overall, it was my favorite of all the weddings I’ve attended. The comparison between my first and second weddings has been interesting. This time, I feel more confident. About everything. I’m not suggesting […]

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PA Divorce Law Has Changed

I got divorced in Pennsylvania in 2006. At the time, I was fairly ignorant to the specifics of PA divorce law. In July of that year I made a phone call to a lawyer… he sent me some papers… I signed things and sent a check… then I think I signed some other things… and in November I received a sealed divorce decree.  The whole process had taken less than four months. But, as I later learned, my experience wasn’t typical. Over the following years, I met more and more people who waited more than two years for their divorce […]

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