Yes, I Love Divorce. No, I’m Not Anti-Marriage.

I get some funny reactions when I tell people about my work. Most people who’ve been divorced say something like, “I could’ve used you two years ago.” They’re often understanding, supportive and encouraging. And then there are the others… those who are offended or otherwise just plain uncomfortable. Most will stay quiet, while others feel the need to erect a wall. Sometimes they share their own views of marriage and divorce, often using religious references to justify their positions. Occasionally, people interpret my work as a direct threat to their marriage. Couples will grasp hands while one tells me in a […]

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The Voicemail That Launched 1000 Feelings

Last week, I received an interesting voicemail. The caller told me her name and said she was looking at my ad. And then… “…I’m a Bible believer, and I hope you know this, in America we have freedom of religion.” I’m happy to report:  I was indeed aware of this fact. She continued, “And we don’t believe that the Bible teaches that we should look at our feelings and motives, but at the knowledge of truth.” She went on to tell me that I’m living in sin, and I’m helping people to sin against Jesus Christ and his word. And then […]

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Let’s Talk About Gray Divorce

While “Gray Divorce” (Baby Boomer Divorces) has been a hot topic for a few years now, I haven’t written about it. There are a few reasons for this: 1… I divorced in my twenties, so I’m not personally familiar with the phenomenon. 2… My parents divorced in their thirties, so I can’t comment as a child of such divorces. 3… Personal preference:  I’ve never liked the branding. For as awesome as I think Divorce is, I don’t want to treat it like a trend.  But, despite my ignorance-and-arrogance-induced silence, Gray Divorce isn’t going away.  It’s time for me to embrace it (and appreciate […]

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Interview with Greg Gann, a Divorce Financial Analyst

A few weeks ago, I had the honor of sitting down with Greg Gann of Gann Partnership LLC in Baltimore, MD. Greg is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Have you heard that title before? Not everyone has, but everyone should. We all know that when a couple separates, their conflict typically revolves around money and parenting time. Given the intricacies of the former, I was eager to talk to Greg about how his specific training can assist STBXs* as they navigate the divorce process. During our discussion, Greg explained that he can operate as a financial neutral for clients seeking a collaborative […]

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Divorce Shaming Drives Me Crazy!

I’ve seen this divorce shaming content before, and today I saw it again:   I really hate this. I hate it enough that I stopped what I was doing in order to write this blog post because I am so hopping mad. I’d really like to curse a whole bunch, but I try not to do that here. I don’t know the profile of the people who share these memes. I don’t know how many are married or what percentage wish they were. I don’t know if their intent in sharing is because they want to celebrate lasting love or if they […]

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