Have I ever mentioned the Co-Parenting Matters BlogTalk Radio show? Shame on me if I haven’t. Co-Parenting Matters is hosted by Deesha and Mike from Co-Parenting 101 as well as Talibah Mbonisi of WeParent. On Sunday nights, they feature appropriate guests to discuss issues related to co-parenting.
Last night’s show put the spotlight on Stepmothers. Earlier in the week, Deesha interviewed Wednesday Martin, PhD, author of the book Stepmoster: A New Look At Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel and Act the Way We Do. During the show, the hosts were joined by Sherry Thomas, Heather Hetchler (Café Smom) and Brigette Lemos-Norman (In the Blender). The panel tackled myths, expectations and struggles.
In the cast of Post-Divorce, “The Stepmother” is the character I can most relate to at this time. I stumble blindly down her path. I endure her loneliness and feel the pain that results from others’ animosity. I experience her genuine concern and I appreciate the meddling ways in which she attempts to “help”. I am cleansed by the light in her laughter. Silently, I choke back her tears. Not-so-silently, I lash out in her defense.
“The Stepmother” title was tainted by fairy tales and the negativity has been propagated by angry children and bitter exes for generations. However, she’s not monstrous nor murderous (in most cases anyway). She’s just a person. Just like the rest of us. It behooves the entire Post-Divorce cast to get to know her because understanding can foster more productive relationships. I urge stepmoms, biomoms, dads, grandparents, girlfriends and children to take a closer look at this woman.
If you missed the show, you can check out the podcast here. It’s an hour and a half long (and they didn’t even get through all the questions). I know that sounds like a huge commitment when your time is precious. But the information is precious too. Precious and priceless.
“You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view – until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”
– spoken by Atticus Finch, by Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird