For The Children

“I’m really upset about it,” a woman told me after she learned that an acquaintance of hers was getting divorced.  “I mean, I hardly even know them.  But… they have children.  It just breaks my heart.” I bit my tongue and looked away. Now is not the time to get on your soap box, I reminded myself.  She’s entitled to her feelings.  Just let it go. While I maintained an even facial expression, the woman’s words infuriated me.  She openly admitted that she didn’t know anything about the situation and yet she assumed the divorce was a tragedy simply because the couple had […]

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I’m Not Bitter. I’m on a Mission.

Last month, this happened… “I don’t understand why people do it,” a man told me.  “I’ve been married for more than thirty years, and even during the worst of times I never considered divorce.” “That’s great,” I congratulated him. “We had some bad times,” he assured me.  “But I never wanted to live without her.” “And that’s the difference,” I explained.  “There were times when I would rather have died than continue to live in my marriage.” As his mind opened, his face changed from a countenance of confidence to one of humble sympathy.  If our conversation had been a […]

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Divorce and the Talking Dog

The December before my parents got divorced, they adopted a puppy.  Dekker was my Christmas present, and I couldn’t have been happier.  I wanted him to sleep in bed with me, but he was too small to go up the stairs.  My parents didn’t want him on the furniture, so I slept on the living room floor to be with him overnight. As his puppiness progressed, he went from being a tiny and quiet ball of fur to an active and destructive young lad.  In the Spring, he dug and chewed the linoleum floor in the kitchen. “We might not […]

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Guest Post: Familial Evolution

This guest post comes from David Williams, who is sharing this story on behalf of a family member who can offer a full picture of divorce through her parents’ divorce and her own…

Familial Evolution – Perspectives on Divorce from Child to Mother

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Gina’s Diary: The Holidays

Gina’s obviously stressing about the holidays. And it’s no wonder- holidays can be tough for children with divorced parents, especially the first year of separation. She brings up a few issues that are fairly common, and I know I struggled with them…

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