A few weeks ago, I had the honor of sitting down with Greg Gann of Gann Partnership LLC in Baltimore, MD. Greg is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. Have you heard that title before? Not everyone has, but everyone should. We all know that when a couple separates, their conflict typically revolves around money and parenting time. Given the intricacies of the former, I was eager to talk to Greg about how his specific training can assist STBXs* as they navigate the divorce process. During our discussion, Greg explained that he can operate as a financial neutral for clients seeking a collaborative […]
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Divorce Shaming Drives Me Crazy!
I’ve seen this divorce shaming content before, and today I saw it again: I really hate this. I hate it enough that I stopped what I was doing in order to write this blog post because I am so hopping mad. I’d really like to curse a whole bunch, but I try not to do that here. I don’t know the profile of the people who share these memes. I don’t know how many are married or what percentage wish they were. I don’t know if their intent in sharing is because they want to celebrate lasting love or if they […]
Continue readingNonviolent Communication
My latest educational obsession is Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Since last November, I’ve attended several workshops, read a few books and joined a local practice group. I believe NVC can save the world. Marshall Rosenberg, PhD literally wrote the book about NVC. It’s called Nonviolent Communication, and the third edition is the one most recently made available. In the book, Rosenberg points out the ways humans typically (and non-effectively) communicate: often we don’t accurately separate our thoughts and feelings… we aren’t in touch with our needs… we make a lot of judgements and comparisons… we deny responsibility… According to Rosenberg, we […]
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What if We Did Divorce Like We Do Marriage?
Previously, I asked the question, “What if we did marriage the way we do divorce?” The situation was somewhat silly, as the post was meant to inspire consideration. My true intention was to introduce a new question: What if we did divorce like we do marriage? Let’s start by reviewing a traditional wedding… when a couple plans their ceremony, they consult with various professionals. It’s likely they’ll visit multiple locations before deciding where to hold the event. They’ll spend some time at a bakery. They’ll price a few potential caterers and florists. Quite often, couples meet with a spiritual leader […]
Continue readingParental Alienation… an Interview With Dr. Jennifer J. Harman
Jennifer J. Harman, PhD, is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Colorado State University. I discovered Dr. Harman when I watched her TEDx Talk about Parental Alienation. While watching, I was intrigued because, unlike many professionals, Dr. Harman didn’t focus solely on the diagnosis of parents and children. She talked broadly about the societal stereotypes and how our attitudes about mothers and fathers allow alienation to take hold. I was fascinated and wanted to know more. A few weeks ago, I had the honor of interviewing Dr. Harman. She told me that Parental Alienation isn’t just a Family Issue, it’s a […]
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