“August 5: I passed Adam in the hall on my way to bed. “Good night Adam, I love you,” the father said. “Fuck you,” the son responded.” -Michael Jeffries, A Family’s Heartbreak
I recently finished reading A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation by Michael Jeffries and Dr. Joel Davies. To date, I think this is my favorite book about this very important topic. (do I say that about every book I read on this topic?)
The book tells the story of Mr. Jeffries’ journey in becoming severely alienated from his youngest son. Much of the book tells the story through journal entries made during the divorce process. This allows the reader to step into Dad’s shoes and experience the unfolding of events through his eyes. It is truly a heart-wrenching experience. My favorite thing about the book is that, at the end of each chapter, the contents of that chapter are decoded through a conversation with a professional- mostly Dr. Davies. Through this dialogue, the reader gains understanding about the psychology behind the actions of the alienator and the child. Dr. Davies describes the often-missed red flags that could indicate a parental tendency to alienate. He also explains how alienated children are able to say what they say and do what they do. For a targeted parent, this knowledge can aid in dealing with his/her individual situation.
Coincidentally, Michael Jeffries was a guest on the Co-Parenting Matters BlogTalkRadio Show last night. Due to a combination of football games and the “empty” status of my kitchen cabinets, I missed the show and I’m catching up with the podcast as I type. If you too missed the show, you can listen here.