Divorce Resolutions

New Year’s offers everyone the opportunity to make a fresh start. With the stress of the holidays behind them, many unhappily married individuals will seek legal counsel in the coming year. It’s a big step that usually comes after months or years of utter misery. While the first step is often celebratory, we shouldn’t forget that The Road To a Decree can be long, windy and exhausting. Some personal rules, developed with a healthy ending in mind, can have a positive impact on the process. To those who have resolved to Start Over Without Him/Her in 2013, I’d like to suggest some additional resolutions, specific to your divorce…

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Gina’s Diary: The Holidays

Gina’s obviously stressing about the holidays. And it’s no wonder- holidays can be tough for children with divorced parents, especially the first year of separation. She brings up a few issues that are fairly common, and I know I struggled with them…

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Divorce Vows

It’s been nearly three years since the first time I wrote about divorce ceremonies. I still haven’t given up hope that this ritual will one day be a normal part of our culture— especially given the existence of companies such as A NEW DAWNe.

Earlier this week, I found this quote from Mahatma Gandhi and I shared it on my Facebook page:

“I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings.”

When I posted it, I suggested that the words could easily be vows in a divorce ceremony. The proposal spawned a bit of a debate.

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My Broken Heart, One Year Later…

On November 20, 2011, I was happily coupled with my best friend and one of the greatest loves of my life. We lived in a house that we’d chosen together to be Our Home. I enjoyed positive and/or close relationships with his parents and his sons. Our family was my highest priority.

Late on the evening of November 21, we had a disagreement that grew into an argument and then exploded into a full-blown fight. The episode reached its climax when Ex-BF confessed that he’d been unfaithful to me a few years earlier. He went on to explain that the Other Woman had recently come back into his life and was pressuring him to pick up where they left off.

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