Once upon a time, not long ago, those who divorced did so in the dark. They endured shame and blame. They did not flaunt their new Single Status. The idea of a divorce party was unthinkable. But times are changing (thankfully). These days, couples can be more creative when they divide their assets. There are various processes to choose from. There are different ways to share the home. Sometimes exes even continue to vacation together with their children and second spouses. And yes, there are new options to celebrate a divorce. For many years, I’ve been a proponent of divorce ceremonies: […]Continue reading
As humans, we learn, grow, celebrate and let go through the process of ceremonious events to mark major occasions. The announcement of a new life is punctuated with a baby shower and later, a baptism… we have a ritual to follow when children lose teeth… there are birthday parties… graduations… weddings… anniversary festivities… and funerals. And yet there is no traditional event to mark the end of a partnership. There is no recognized period of mourning, no ceremony to honor what was and welcome what is to become. When a marriage ends, a family is left fumbling in the fallout. Without ritualistic guidelines, rabid emotions reign supreme and often drive the process into a hellish downward spiral.
It’s been more than two years since I first wrote a post suggesting divorce ceremonies be part of the evolutionary process for a family. And it’s been two weeks since I wrote about my experience at the Divorce Expo where I met Teresa Dedovich, who performs ceremonies for those moving on from a concluded relationship. Because I feel this is so important, I followed up with Teresa the week after the expo and we spoke more about the “life reconciliation” services she offers. Below you can find her personal story of the origin of her idea and name for her ministry…Continue reading
I have this theory about why so many marriages fail. Actually, I have several theories (please refer to Why Marry? and Why Marry? continued)… So, one of my other theories has to do with the way we treat weddings- as a society: When a couple decides to marry, they throw an engagement party (yay!) The pending matrimony is announced in the newspapers (fame!) Then, sometime before the wedding, someone throws another party for the Bride (yay!) As well, someone throws a party for the Groom (hurray!) The couple instructs everyone what gifts to buy them by registering at their favorite […]Continue reading