The Two Roads to Divorce was written by Lenard Marlow, who has assisted in the divorce process both as an attorney and a mediator. Experience taught him much, and, being familiar with both roads to divorce, he has done an excellent job communicating his knowledge to the reader. The book is written in the second-person narrative and reads almost like a series of short letters to a person embarking on the Journey of Divorce. The relatively short chapters begin with a title and an appropriate quote. Example: CHAPTER 3 WHOSE FAULT IS IT? Husbands and wives do not get divorced […]
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The GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy
My parents had a good divorce. My ex-husband and I had a good divorce. But, what does that mean? For years, I’ve been writing about the importance of a good divorce, and I realize it means something a little different to everyone who goes through the process. Recently, I considered the common elements of a good divorce. How can I address this topic in a more effective and efficient manner? The answer came to me a few weeks ago. Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you the GOOD Divorce™ Philosophy: G is for Goals. As you enter the Land of […]
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If you follow me on Twitter, you know that I’ve been super-excited to see the movie Divorce Corp since I found out about it a few weeks ago. Initially, I was planning a 2.5 hour road trip to see the film at the closest location. Thankfully, due to popular demand (probably thanks to Dr. Drew’s interview on CNN), it opened in a nearby theater and I was able to see the movie last night. Divorce Corp takes a painful look at the way we typically handle divorce in the US. Through interviews with lawyers, judges, custody evaluators and victims of […]
Continue readingThe Right Thing is… Painful
A few weeks ago, I watched the movie, The Vicious Kind. In a closing scene, an adulterous and alienating father stops short of confessing and apologizing to his youngest son. “Sometimes people do things that they know are wrong,” he began. “But they just do them anyway. Because to do the right thing would be too painful.” His explanation grabbed me and left me contemplating the words for days. It wasn’t entirely a new concept for me. For years, I’ve been touting the phrase, “hurting people hurt people.” But… this was… different. “To do the right thing would be too […]
Continue readingAffairs, Apologies and Opinions
Last month, Rielle Hunter apologized for her affair with John Edwards. She also announced a new book— a kind of amendment to her first book, in which she annotates her regrets. The announcement was met with mixed reviews. Some cheered for Ms. Hunter’s public act, while others suggested her effort was too little, too late. Personally, I’m of the opinion that her apology to the masses was a courageous move. I do question her sincerity, given the fact that she stands to profit from this endeavor. … And I also think that what we think doesn’t much matter. Once upon […]
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