Marriage is a Womb. Divorce is a Birth.

Marriage is a womb.  Divorce is a birth. This metaphor has been taking form in my head for months… I figured it was time to write it down.  Have you ever considered it this way? In the beginning of a marriage, there is room to grow.  We are warm and protected and the environment is nourishing.  It’s fun… safe… soothing… and comforting to know that we are cared for by another. And then things change. Sometimes we feel too cramped and we reach out in search of greener pastures.  Other times we are extricated from the womb by unforeseen forces. […]

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My 2014 Word of Intention

At the beginning of 2013, I determined that my Word of Intention for the year would be “nourish,” and I think it was appropriate. Looking back, I see that 2013 was a year of quieter reflections, close-to-home efforts and soul-supporting solitude.  As a nourishing presence to others, I adopted an elderly dog (deaf, blind and arthritic, but boy is he cute!) and joined Big Brothers/Big Sisters.  I also did a lot of internal processing while I nourished my mind, body and spirit.    I now find myself more firmly rooted and ready to rise… …Which is I’ve chosen the word “Grow” […]

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What I Learned From My Favorite Ex

When I think about My Favorite Ex, I’m reminded of the quote from Jeff Brown: “You don’t measure love in time. You measure love in transformation.” When I was a senior in high school I dated the guy who would become My Favorite Ex. I continue to credit him with making me who I am.  Before Tripp, I was a good girl who didn’t question much about what I’d been taught:  get good grades, obey authority, don’t take drugs, don’t talk to strangers, etc. Tripp was different than anyone I’d hung out with before.  He went to a different, much larger, […]

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My Broken Heart, One Year Later…

On November 20, 2011, I was happily coupled with my best friend and one of the greatest loves of my life. We lived in a house that we’d chosen together to be Our Home. I enjoyed positive and/or close relationships with his parents and his sons. Our family was my highest priority.

Late on the evening of November 21, we had a disagreement that grew into an argument and then exploded into a full-blown fight. The episode reached its climax when Ex-BF confessed that he’d been unfaithful to me a few years earlier. He went on to explain that the Other Woman had recently come back into his life and was pressuring him to pick up where they left off.

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Let Go: Nature’s Wisdom…

Hurricane Sandy passed through my area yesterday and last night. As individuals and businesses made preparations, I found the following snippet in my Facebook News Feed:

“Let the power of the winds carry away all that is no longer serving you.”
What a beautiful perspective! While we were all rushing to stockpile water and take cover, Mother Nature was reminding us to focus on what’s important and prepare to let go of what isn’t.

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