Let’s go ahead and get this out in the open: I’m a Liberal. (full disclosure: I’m more of an anarchist in my home, and I’m registered Independent, but at the national level I believe in a collaborative effort to ensure the health, welfare, and education of all people.) (Quick Note: I promise this post isn’t about US politics, but the following experience was my inspiration for writing it…) The election results have been difficult to sit with. Because equality and civil rights are important to me. And I’ve come to understand why silence is violence. Recently I published a post […]Continue reading
Season Of Loss And Uncertainty: This Sucks
Things are pretty heavy right now. The election. The virus. The fires. The hurricanes. Everyone is feeling it, to some degree. And sometimes having compassion for others can feel like walking on eggshells— it’s a lot of effort, and my energy is deeply depleted. I’ve been isolating a lot. It’s hard to know whom I can trust at this time. My emotional fuses are all pretty damn short and I’ve been crying a lot more than usual. Today I took my dog for a walk and I noticed that the path was littered with leaves. Not colorful-happy-crunchy leaves. These leaves […]Continue reading
New Year, New Intentions
Welcome to 2020! Out with the old… in with the new, right? It’s time to set some new intentions. The latter part of 2019 was a bit of a crazy time for me as I made several shifts in my life. I, like so many of us, came to the realization that much of my frustration could be eliminated if only I would change. Ugh. That’s so hard, isn’t it? Wouldn’t it be great if we could simply complain and then everything around us would shift into alignment for our happiness? But it doesn’t work that way. I had to accept responsibility […]Continue reading
Reduce the Divorce Rate: Make Marriage Harder.
How can we reduce the divorce rate? It’s a question that lots of people ask. And there are lots of suggested answers… many involve making it harder to get divorced: increase waiting times for a decree, insist on counseling first, go back to needing grounds, etc. Perhaps they’re right. Perhaps less people would get divorced if it was a more arduous process. You know what’s funny to me? All this talk about divorce… and so little talk about marriage. I mean, how can you talk about one without the other? You can’t truly address the divorce rate as a “problem” […]Continue reading
I Wish People Would Stop Their Judgment of Divorce.
I encounter a lot of judgment around divorce. Even sometimes from those who are divorced. Lately I’ve been asking for it. I started posting unofficial polls on social media to see what people have to say about the topic. Many people think they have it allllll figured out. As if this “problem” of divorce can be summed up in a couple short sentences. “Couples just give up too easily.”“These young people don’t value commitment.”“Divorce is too easy to get.”“Divorce has become too acceptable.”“We live in a throw-away culture.” It reminds me of a conversation I had several years ago. I […]Continue reading