The subject of today’s post comes from an old friend of mine and regular reader of Relative Evolutions. A few years ago, Lauren made the difficult decision to leave her marriage. Today, she reflects on her journey in the following letter to The Ex… Dear You, Three years have gone by since I rocked your world, blindsided you, and probably broke your heart. Please know that my decision to leave was largely based on my discontent with myself, and had little to do with you. I firmly believe that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t possibly love someone […]
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My Broken Heart, One Year Later…
On November 20, 2011, I was happily coupled with my best friend and one of the greatest loves of my life. We lived in a house that we’d chosen together to be Our Home. I enjoyed positive and/or close relationships with his parents and his sons. Our family was my highest priority.
Late on the evening of November 21, we had a disagreement that grew into an argument and then exploded into a full-blown fight. The episode reached its climax when Ex-BF confessed that he’d been unfaithful to me a few years earlier. He went on to explain that the Other Woman had recently come back into his life and was pressuring him to pick up where they left off.
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Today is my parents’ wedding anniversary. I don’t know if either of them realize it, but I do. And my sister does. It’s funny, because we didn’t know the date while they were married…or, if we did, it didn’t become important to us until after the divorce. I can’t say exactly why we care. The date doesn’t cause me to be particularly happy or sad. I’m not wondering about What Might Have Been. I’m not mourning the loss of What Once Was. It’s just a noticeable date- one that causes me to pause. My own wedding anniversary was last week. […]
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