Do People Change?

Many years ago, I dated someone whom I’ll call “Don”. He drove a sporty coupe and worked at a grocery store. Back then, I wore short shorts and had a somewhat catty relationship with his ex-girlfriend. We ate at cheap restaurants, spent many evenings at the movies and engaged in a lot of “experimental” activity. We were young and in love and… you get the idea.

Nowadays Don is married with a bunch of kids. He’s a medical professional and owns a vehicle with four doors. I’m sure it’s been a really long time since he vomited tequila and macaroni and cheese on someone’s bedroom floor. Blue eyes aside, he barely resembles the guy who affectionately referred to me as “Boo Boo”.

Did he change?

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Team Frog

My apologies to those of you with butterfly tattoos…

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly”

This is a wonderfully inspiring conglomeration of words- especially for someone going through a separation or divorce. People in the throes of such a transition need to be reminded that change is good. But why is it that the butterfly is our go-to “transformational” creature? Why not the frog?

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