No, I’m not getting married. I’ve agreed to preside over a self-uniting ceremony for a friend and her fiance. Not a bad gig for a Divorce Encouragist, huh? I met Ellen several years ago when we were both legally married. Since then, we’ve each signed “I don’t anymore,” reclaimed our birth names, and moved on (and up) in a variety of ways. When Ellen met Andrew, circumstances were quite forbidding in terms of a serious relationship. Yet, amazingly, the stars aligned for them. After more than a year of domestic bliss, he popped the question with a ring similar to […]Continue reading
As humans, we learn, grow, celebrate and let go through the process of ceremonious events to mark major occasions. The announcement of a new life is punctuated with a baby shower and later, a baptism… we have a ritual to follow when children lose teeth… there are birthday parties… graduations… weddings… anniversary festivities… and funerals. And yet there is no traditional event to mark the end of a partnership. There is no recognized period of mourning, no ceremony to honor what was and welcome what is to become. When a marriage ends, a family is left fumbling in the fallout. Without ritualistic guidelines, rabid emotions reign supreme and often drive the process into a hellish downward spiral.
It’s been more than two years since I first wrote a post suggesting divorce ceremonies be part of the evolutionary process for a family. And it’s been two weeks since I wrote about my experience at the Divorce Expo where I met Teresa Dedovich, who performs ceremonies for those moving on from a concluded relationship. Because I feel this is so important, I followed up with Teresa the week after the expo and we spoke more about the “life reconciliation” services she offers. Below you can find her personal story of the origin of her idea and name for her ministry…Continue reading
I think we need to start holding Divorce Ceremonies. Like in that movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, when Diane Lane’s marriage falls apart her friends get her a cake and they say “weddings begin with cake and they should end with cake too.” (or something to that effect). I love that!! And I want to take it a few steps further.Continue reading