Recently, I found myself retelling an old love story and I uttered the words, “I shouldn’t have done that.” And, while it’s true that I shouldn’t have done the thing that I did, I was immediately reminded of the experience that followed the thing and the lessons learned because of the thing. I don’t want to live with relationship regrets. After some thought, I changed my words to say, “I won’t do that again.” The experience caused me to reflect on other potential relationship regrets: the issues of my past relationships, and the lessons I learned as a result. Following is a list of […]
Continue readingA Relationship is a Crystal Ball
What does a relationship have in common with a crystal ball? In the beginning, relationships can be amazing. Everything seems perfect. It’s as if the partnership is like a glorious crystal ball in which a couple can see not only their past and their future (one can never glimpse the present, it is a fleeting moment), but also themselves. In the beginning, everything is so clear and so beautiful and so simple. …And then life happens. Despite the best efforts to keep things under control, tempers flare and emotions run high between those whose hearts are interwoven. As a result, the crystal ball is marred. Never again will things be so […]
Continue readingNo Marriage Lasts Forever
With the exception of a few personal favorites, celebrity marriage and divorce isn’t a topic I watch closely. However, a few days ago, I was reading an article that referenced Jennifer Aniston’s Post-Brad interview with Vanity Fair. I wasn’t familiar with the piece, and (given the topic) I was curious. So, I did some searching and found the interview. I read it on my phone, in my kitchen, a few paragraphs at a time, while attempting to make my own dark chocolate almond butter cups (what an adventure that was!). The interview captures Jen as a raw and real human being, finding […]
Continue readingDis-Solving Conflict From Within, An Interview with Henry Yampolsky
I encountered Henry Yampolsky for the first time in a Facebook Group where he posted a link to a workshop he was offering. I was intrigued by his work in conflict resolution, and a few months later we met in person. Upon learning more about Henry’s story and the work he does, I was eager to delve deeper and help him spread his message. I think his approach can be especially powerful for those going through divorce (as well as for the professionals helping those going through divorce). As you’ll hear in the video below, Henry used to be a trial […]
Continue readingLove Like You’ve Never Been Hurt …?
I’ve heard this Love Quote said both ways: I think they’re both dumb. (That sounds harsh, I know) Of course, I enjoy the pretty pictures and the fantasy sentiment. And I like the often-accompanying messages about dancing like nobody’s watching and singing like you don’t need the money. I get it. It’s all about living from the heart and in the moment. But, the thing about being hurt… well, I think the existence of past and future hurts can enhance a partnership, not detract from it. To quote Glennon Doyle Melton: “Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we […]
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