Remember when I said, “I’m not anti-marriage“? Here’s proof… On January 14, 2017, I tied the knot with my domestic partner of the past two years. We self-united in a small and simple ceremony, surrounded by our closest family members. One of our friends played the cello. Another facilitated the exchange of our vows and rings and later served as our photographer. It was simple, yet elegant. And overall, it was my favorite of all the weddings I’ve attended. The comparison between my first and second weddings has been interesting. This time, I feel more confident. About everything. I’m not suggesting […]
Continue readingPA Divorce Law Has Changed
I got divorced in Pennsylvania in 2006. At the time, I was fairly ignorant to the specifics of PA divorce law. In July of that year I made a phone call to a lawyer… he sent me some papers… I signed things and sent a check… then I think I signed some other things… and in November I received a sealed divorce decree. The whole process had taken less than four months. But, as I later learned, my experience wasn’t typical. Over the following years, I met more and more people who waited more than two years for their divorce […]
Continue readingIt’s Official: My 2017 Word of Intention
Last year’s Word of Intention was “Trust,” and it was appropriate. Yet, for me, 2016 proved to be a year of eye-opening education. I sought and gained a multitude of knowledge applicable to various areas of my life. Such information allowed me to expand my mind… to think… to plan… to strategize… to make choices… And that was all well and good, and appropriate. But as the year came to a close, I felt critical of myself. You see, in all my learning and thinking, I fell short on some of my personal aspirations for the year. Hence, my goal for […]
Continue readingDivorce on TV: My Favorite Shows
The subject of Divorce is becoming more prominent in our culture, and that makes me very happy. If you’re a regular reader, you know that I want this issue to be an accepted Life Event. In order to better support those in the process, we (the collective “we”) need to change our minds, our hearts and our words. Until recently, this has been a difficult task because the topic has been veiled by shame. Not anymore. These days, we’re seeing more and more Divorce on TV. Following is a quick summary of some of my favorite TV shows that highlight […]
Continue readingDivorce Coach vs. Collaborative Law Coach
Earlier this month, I attended training for professionals looking to participate in the Collaborative Divorce Process. Collaborative teams typically consist of two attorneys (one to represent each party), a financial professional (neutral) and a coach (neutral). Since I’m a coach and an overall divorce enthusiast, I jumped at the opportunity to deepen my knowledge about this topic. I went, even though I’m not eligible to participate on a collaborative team. I’m not eligible, you see, because there’s a difference between a Divorce Coach (me) and a Coach in the collaborative process. Let’s investigate… First, an analogy to illustrate the difference […]
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