January 5, 2015 is “Divorce Monday”….
‘Tis the season for divorces
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When couples stop beating dead horses
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Will they make it quick and clever?
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Or will the kids be scarred forever?
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It’s that time of year: For many weeks, miserable couples gritted their teeth and faked smiles through the pre-determined Home Stretch of their time together. And now the Holiday Season has passed. The pretty paper has gone to the curb. The dishes are done. The leftovers are gone. The kids are going back to school. It’s time to get back to Life… and it’s also time to make good on that resolution to consult a divorce attorney.
If you’ve found this page because you’re one of those beginning the process and are searching for divorce advice, Welcome! If you’re a regular, Welcome Back! And regardless of your Visitor Status, Happy New Year!!
As we embark on this trip around the sun, let us remember…
- We’re all human (even our exes)
- Everyone makes mistakes
- Forgiveness is a selfish act which has nothing to do with the offender
- A little compassion can go a long way
- Divorce is about the evolution, not dissolution of families
- Never underestimate the power of appropriate boundaries
- Children are biologically 50% of each parent. Don’t denigrate their DNA
I have high hopes for 2015 as our paradigms about divorce continue to shift ever-so-slightly. When I look at my social feeds, I see more and more efforts (and some successes) toward family law reform. When I look around myself, I see more and more cooperative and communicative divorced couples. When I look to the future, I imagine a culture that rallies to assist evolving families as a whole (not simply vilifying one member).
Can you see the future with me? Won’t you take a moment to energize my vision? Imagine a world where divorce (like death) is an unfortunate, yet accepted, occurrence. Think about the opportunities for improved communication, respect and healing when couples opt to hold a divorce ceremony. Consider the benefit of divorce registries (perhaps branded with a prettier name) for those who’ve lost 50% of their household items. Feel the guilt and shame dissipate as you envision happy and well-adjusted children thriving in a peaceful and supportive bi-nuclear environment.
What do you think? Is this a vision worth striving for in 2015?