Someone Asked Me To Marry Them. And I Said “Yes!”

No, I’m not getting married.  I’ve agreed to preside over a self-uniting ceremony for a friend and her fiance.  Not a bad gig for a Divorce Encouragist, huh? I met Ellen several years ago, when we were both legally married.  Since then, we’ve each signed “I don’t anymore,” reclaimed our birth names, and moved on (and up) in a variety of ways. When Ellen met Andrew, circumstances were quite forbidding in terms of a serious relationship.  Yet, amazingly, the stars aligned for them.  After more than a year of domestic bliss, he popped the question, and she agreed to become […]

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TDE Gets a Stepfamily

It’s no secret that I’m not a big fan of weddings. Over lunch last week, I asked some of Boyfriend’s co-workers why they attend such events. The answers varied:
“To meet drunken bimbos”
“To support the couple” (funny how soooo many people show up to “support” the couple at the wedding, but then disappear during a divorce when people really need support)
“To meet new people”
“To see people I haven’t seen in a long time”
“They’re fun. It’s a big party with drinks and dancing!”

On June 26, I attended a wedding because I was the daughter of the bride…

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Why Marry?

I knew I shouldn’t have gotten married. I told everyone that I didn’t want my father to walk me down the aisle because I didn’t want him to feel, after the divorce that he “gave his daughter to that asshole”. I insisted on a small wedding because I wanted to save money for the divorce. I kept my receipts for everything related to the dogs so that I could prove myself to be the appropriate caregiver in the event we split households. LOL…why did I bother buying the dress and curling my hair? I’m generally pretty good with dates, yet […]

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