I spend a lot of time discussing the female side of divorce and stepfamily issues. I’ve talked about my journey as the partner of a divorced dad and I’ve invited conversation from The Mom’s perspective…. among other posts. And throughout the life of this blog, I’ve gotten some much-appreciated input from men about these issues.
Tonight, I’m thinking about stepfathers…
Continue readingI’ve heard it many times: “My ex doesn’t see the kids anymore because he/she is too involved with his/her new family.”
The explanations might vary. Perhaps distance is to blame… maybe Mom and Dad’s relationship was so volatile that one of them felt it necessary to disappear… or I guess it’s possible that the new tribe is just more fun/engaging/nice/etc.
In one family, this person is celebrated for his/her love and devotion. In another family, the same person is cursed for his/her lack of the same.
Continue readingIt’s no secret that I’m not a big fan of weddings. Over lunch last week, I asked some of Boyfriend’s co-workers why they attend such events. The answers varied:
“To meet drunken bimbos”
“To support the couple” (funny how soooo many people show up to “support” the couple at the wedding, but then disappear during a divorce when people really need support)
“To meet new people”
“To see people I haven’t seen in a long time”
“They’re fun. It’s a big party with drinks and dancing!”
On June 26, I attended a wedding because I was the daughter of the bride…
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