A New DAWNe: Divorce Ceremonies

As humans, we learn, grow, celebrate and let go through the process of ceremonious events to mark major occasions. The announcement of a new life is punctuated with a baby shower and later, a baptism… we have a ritual to follow when children lose teeth… there are birthday parties… graduations… weddings… anniversary festivities… and funerals. And yet there is no traditional event to mark the end of a partnership. There is no recognized period of mourning, no ceremony to honor what was and welcome what is to become. When a marriage ends, a family is left fumbling in the fallout. Without ritualistic guidelines, rabid emotions reign supreme and often drive the process into a hellish downward spiral.

It’s been more than two years since I first wrote a post suggesting divorce ceremonies be part of the evolutionary process for a family. And it’s been two weeks since I wrote about my experience at the Divorce Expo where I met Teresa Dedovich, who performs ceremonies for those moving on from a concluded relationship. Because I feel this is so important, I followed up with Teresa the week after the expo and we spoke more about the “life reconciliation” services she offers. Below you can find her personal story of the origin of her idea and name for her ministry…

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Saturday’s Song

When contemplating what song I wanted to feature this week, I was reminded of a recent video from fellow 30-something, divorced and childless blogger, Sassy Divorcee (see her story here). I first encountered Sassy on Twitter and I liked her name, so I followed her. According to Sassy, she’s no Elizabeth Gilbert. Indeed, she brings her own unique brand of sass, strength and sarcasm to the blogosphere. When I read her post entitled Who Said Divorce Was The End Of My Life, I found it rather awesome (I love her new spin on the phrase “head in the clouds”). I tweeted the post with a note about the inspiration within and Sassy sent me a link to the video below which features more images from her amazing journey, as well as today’s song: Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You), performed by Kelly Clarkston, written by Jörgen Elofsson, Ali Tamposi, David Gamson, and Greg Kurstin.

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A Song For Saturday

I like the weekends again. There was a time when I didn’t, a time when I hated having so much unscheduled time on my hands. That was back when I constantly needed to be propped up by other people and therefore I was never more than a few inches away from my phone. Facebook, Twitter, email and text messages from caring friends and family members sustained me in the days when I couldn’t eat. And I am so grateful for the support they provided until I could make it on my own.

For a few days I’ve been toying with the idea of posting a song on Saturdays… something uplifting for anyone who might be struggling through the weekend. That was my intention today. However, I got a little sidetracked and stumbled upon this video.

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Being Smart About Starting Over

For those of you who’ve followed my blog long enough, you might recall how happy I was to discover a Divorce Fair in Canada a couple years ago.

I’m now ecstatic that this phenomenon has moved to the US… and even better, there’s one close enough for me to visit (I am such a divorce nerd)!

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Team Frog

My apologies to those of you with butterfly tattoos…

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly”

This is a wonderfully inspiring conglomeration of words- especially for someone going through a separation or divorce. People in the throes of such a transition need to be reminded that change is good. But why is it that the butterfly is our go-to “transformational” creature? Why not the frog?

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