Defenses = Damage

Have I ever mentioned that I’m one of those nerdy people who listens to audiobooks in the car? I am. Recently, I was listening to an old Deepak Chopra book and he was discussing the concept of aging- or rather, not aging. He stated that healthy relationships are a key to our longevity. And when discussing how to maintain healthy relationships, he suggested letting down our defenses. Because when you are defenseless, you are invincible (what? Isn’t that like letting people walk all over you?). When you are defenseless, there is nothing to attack (Oh, ok… now I get it).

In contemplating this, I am reminded of an argument I overheard several years ago…

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The Co$t of Anger

True story (minor details have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved)…

Janie and Joe had been separated for nearly a year. The paperwork had been filed, the support amount had been determined and the custody arrangements had been arranged. That said, they were still struggling to find some sense of normalcy in their new lives.

One Sunday night toward the end of the month, the kids returned from a visit with Joe and were ecstatic to tell their mother about the great weekend they had. Janie bit her tongue while she listened patiently, then sent the girls to bed and seethed until the wee hours of the morning. The following day, she did what nearly every divorcing person does when they feel defeated: she called her lawyer.

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Christian Divorce Support

Last night, I attended a support group for divorced people. Several months ago, I had seen a sign outside a church a few miles away from my house. Yesterday morning, I called the phone number for more information and decided to check it out.

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