“Don’t Get Angry, Get Knowledge”

Last evening, I had the extreme pleasure of attending an “Evening of Support, Information and a Vision for Your Future” in Westport, CT.  Featured speakers included  Susan Filan (attorney/mediator),  Jessica Bram (author: Happily Ever After Divorce:  Notes of a Joyful Journey) and Lili Vasileff (divorce financial planner).  They were joined by therapists Nancy Wergeles and Elizabeth Crossfield, who head up a local divorce support group. The room was full of people seeking resources to guide them in their journey.  I thought the panel did a fabulous job explaining the differences between litigation and mediation, the need for financial planning as […]

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Discrimination?

Today, I met a man who told me his Horrid Divorce Story- the typical male version (she ‘took him to the cleaners’).  But he survived!  And when it was all over, he proudly displayed his divorce decree at his office.   And then, he was asked to take it down. Why???  If divorced people can’t show off the universal symbol of their status, then all those married people should leave their rings at home.  It’s only fair, right? Google+

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A Better Way to Wed

I have this theory about why so many marriages fail.  Actually, I have several theories (please refer to Why Marry? and Why Marry? continued)… So, one of my other theories has to do with the way we treat weddings- as a society: When a couple decides to marry, they throw an engagement party (yay!) The pending matrimony is announced in the newspapers (fame!) Then, sometime before the wedding, someone throws another party for the Bride (yay!) As well, someone throws a party for the Groom (hurray!) The couple instructs everyone what gifts to buy them by registering at their favorite […]

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