I’m a divorce coach. But do you need a divorce coach? Nope, you don’t. Don’t get me wrong. Divorce coaches are awesome allies in helping their clients take productive steps to create a better future. They certainly have a lot to offer and can help you feel and do better. But here’s the thing… Those going through divorce are often bombarded with advice: call this lawyer, it’s better if you get this judge, move out, don’t move out, empty the bank account, hire a private investigator or a forensic accountant, work with a divorce coach…. The list goes on. I’m […]
Continue readingBetween Christmas and The New Year
The week between Christmas and the new year always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement. Now I’m not so sure. This time at the end of the year is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And while we count down the days, hours, […]
Continue readingBook: An American Marriage
I discovered An American Marriage last month when the author, Tayari Jones, came to Harrisburg. She delivered the opening keynote for the 2018 Book Festival at the Midtown Scholar (worth a stop, if you’re ever in the area). At the last minute, I bought a ticket, drove downtown, and then waited in line. I received my copy of the novel on my way in the door, and then proceeded to the front row and waited an hour to hear the author speak. I began reading immediately, and was introduced to Roy Hamilton. As I turned the pages, I learned that Roy was wrongly accused […]
Continue readingLove is an Amusement Park
In my last post, I ranted about how you shouldn’t give away your personal power by giving up on love. I’d like to expand on that with the following analogy… Love (and marriage) is like an Amusement Park. Imagine a child receiving the news that s/he will be spending the day at an amusement park. The child is delighted, right? Because amusement parks are exciting! Love is exciting. Picture the child arriving at the gate and eagerly paying the entrance fee. Love also requires you give something in order to enjoy the experience. Loose in the park, the child wonders, […]
Continue readingStop Giving Away Your Personal Power!
Before I rant about personal power, a little background: My ex-husband wasn’t very compassionate. He had a low tolerance for any type of excuses, complaining, or personal pity parties. Whenever I attempted any of them, he’d get annoyed and say, “don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit.” I still hear his voice in the back of my head. Most recently, I heard it today when I read a post on social media that said something like, “I’ve decided I’m not worthy of love. I’ll be alone forever.” Oh, don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit, I thought. In the divorce/breakup groups, I […]
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