A couple weeks ago, I wrote an article about the moments I knew my marriage was over. It was originally published on DivorcedMoms.com and was later featured by The Huffington Post. You can read it here. The piece wasn’t the first of mine that’s been picked up by The Huffington Post, but judging by the response, I think it was the most popular (and perhaps that’s why it was published on the German site as well). Not only did I receive some ‘thank you’ emails from those who walked a similar path, the article garnered more than 200 comments. Unlike […]
Continue readingBook: The Chump Lady Survival Guide to Infidelity
When I first visited the Chump Lady web site, I assumed Tracy Schorn was just another scorned and forever-bitter man-hater. But then I started digging deeper into the site. In her digital library, I found much wit, wisdom and profanity. I nodded, laughed and cried. And I decided to buy her book. The Chump Lady Survival Guide to Infidelity, How to Regain Your Sanity After You’ve Been Cheated On is a soft book. Literally. It’s not fuzzy, but the matte cover has a silky-smooth quality to it that I’ve yet to notice in other paperbacks. But I don’t think you should […]
Continue readingWould You Take Your Ex to the Hospital?
This week, a friend of mine took her ex-husband to the hospital. It was a move which, I thought, demonstrated a kind heart and mature relationship. Of course, not everyone thinks like me. A little background: Penny’s ex called her one evening and asked if she could pick up their children because he was too sick to drive them to her house. She obliged, and the next day she checked in to see how he was doing. Unfortunately his condition was such that he needed immediate medical attention. Penny drove him to the hospital, assisted him in the ER and […]
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Telling Stories
I’ve wrestled with the quote in the image above. It’s an empowering conglomeration of verbiage, isn’t it? It’s empowering… until you think about it too much. Then it just becomes confusing. Each of us has our own story, and we write that story ourselves. We determine the genre, rating and roles of the characters. In truth, we create our own reality. Most of the time we socialize with others who agree with our story and thus live in a similar reality. And, in that case, all is well. Problems arise when one tells a story which clashes with the reality […]
Continue readingDivorce Mediation Training… Check!
I completed my Divorce Mediation Training last week. I’m now qualified to empower couples toward productive conversation about the terms of their divorce. Yay! The experience was interesting. It was quite unlike Basic Mediation Training, which left me feeling warm and fuzzy inside. My Basic Mediation class was full of social workers, therapists and managers who were looking for new ways to approach conflict. In Family Mediation Training, I was the only participant who was not an attorney. I started out feeling rather uncomfortable, to say the least. On Day One, a woman asked our instructor, “What business does a […]
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