My ex and I had a peaceful divorce; one full of cooperation, communication and compassion. It cost less than $400 and took only as much time as the state required. When I refer to my experience, some people dismiss me. After all, I’m the exception, not the norm. Most divorces are ugly and expensive because most exes are assholes. And I couldn’t understand that, because my ex is obviously a really great person, otherwise I would’ve had a more typical divorce. As I read about divorce I find more and more articles to help people identify and deal with various […]
Continue readingMarriage is a Womb. Divorce is a Birth.
Marriage is a womb. Divorce is a birth. This metaphor has been taking form in my head for months… I figured it was time to write it down. Have you ever considered it this way? In the beginning of a marriage, there is room to grow. We are warm and protected and the environment is nourishing. It’s fun… safe… soothing… and comforting to know that we are cared for by another. And then things change. Sometimes we feel too cramped and we reach out in search of greener pastures. Other times we are extricated from the womb by unforeseen forces. […]
Continue readingA Post-Divorce Letter to The Ex
The subject of today’s post comes from an old friend of mine and regular reader of Relative Evolutions. A few years ago, Lauren made the difficult decision to leave her marriage. Today, she reflects on her journey in the following letter to The Ex… Dear You, Three years have gone by since I rocked your world, blindsided you, and probably broke your heart. Please know that my decision to leave was largely based on my discontent with myself, and had little to do with you. I firmly believe that if you don’t love yourself, you can’t possibly love someone […]
Continue readingDeck the Halls With Divorce Folly… But Preferably Not
January 5, 2015 is “Divorce Monday”…. ‘Tis the season for divorces Fa la la la la la la la la When couples stop beating dead horses Fa la la la la la la la la Will they make it quick and clever? Fa la la la la la la la la Or will the kids be scarred forever? Fa la la la la la la la la It’s that time of year: For many weeks, miserable couples gritted their teeth and faked smiles through the pre-determined Home Stretch of their time together. And now the Holiday Season has passed. The pretty […]
Continue readingDivorce Corp Family Law Reform Conference
You might recall how excited I was back in January when the movie Divorce Corp came to a theater near me (I wrote about it here). This past weekend I was even more delighted to attend the Divorce Corp Family Law Reform Conference in Alexandria, VA. The event was attended by a wide variety of people: lawyers, therapists, coaches, consultants, moms, dads, friends… each one with a personal story and a deep desire to see some serious changes in the family court system. The speakers were passionate, knowledgeable professionals with captivating stories, facts and missions to share. I laughed. I […]
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