self love challenge

5 Day Self Love Challenge

It’s almost Valentine’s Day, and this can be a crappy time of year for anyone who’s not currently attached. There are many alternative ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. For instance, Eve Ensler’s V-Day Movement launched on February 14, 2012. And Single Lady Liz Lemon (30 Rock) chose to celebrate Anna Howard Shaw Day instead on the traditional Day of Love. This year, I’m opting for an alternative as well. I’m planning to spend 5 days indulging in Self Love, and you’re invited to join me. Because, let’s be honest, the only lifelong relationship we’re guaranteed to have is the one we have […]

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I got married

I Got Married! Yes, Really.

Remember when I said, “I’m not anti-marriage“? Here’s proof… On January 14, 2017, I tied the knot with my domestic partner of the past two years. We self-united in a small and simple ceremony, surrounded by our closest family members. One of our friends played the cello. Another facilitated the exchange of our vows and rings and later served as our photographer. It was simple, yet elegant. And overall, it was my favorite of all the weddings I’ve attended. The comparison between my first and second weddings has been interesting. This time, I feel more confident. About everything. I’m not suggesting […]

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PA Divorce Law Has Changed

I got divorced in Pennsylvania in 2006. At the time, I was fairly ignorant to the specifics of PA divorce law. In July of that year I made a phone call to a lawyer… he sent me some papers… I signed things and sent a check… then I think I signed some other things… and in November I received a sealed divorce decree.  The whole process had taken less than four months. But, as I later learned, my experience wasn’t typical. Over the following years, I met more and more people who waited more than two years for their divorce […]

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Word of Intention

It’s Official: My 2017 Word of Intention

Last year’s Word of Intention was “Trust,” and it was appropriate. Yet, for me, 2016 proved to be a year of eye-opening education. I sought and gained a multitude of knowledge applicable to various areas of my life. Such information allowed me to expand my mind… to think… to plan… to strategize… to make choices…  And that was all well and good, and appropriate. But as the year came to a close, I felt critical of myself. You see, in all my learning and thinking, I fell short on some of my personal aspirations for the year. Hence, my goal for […]

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Timer

The Week Between…

The week between Christmas and New Years always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement. But now I’m not so sure. The week between Christmas and New Years is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And as we count down the days, […]

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