Between Christmas and The New Year

The week between Christmas and the new year always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement.  Now I’m not so sure. This time at the end of the year is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And while we count down the days, hours, […]

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Book: An American Marriage

I discovered An American Marriage last month when the author, Tayari Jones, came to Harrisburg. She delivered the opening keynote for the 2018 Book Festival at the Midtown Scholar (worth a stop, if you’re ever in the area). At the last minute, I bought a ticket, drove downtown, and then waited in line. I received my copy of the novel on my way in the door, and then proceeded to the front row and waited an hour to hear the author speak. I began reading immediately, and was introduced to Roy Hamilton. As I turned the pages, I learned that Roy was wrongly accused […]

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Love is an Amusement Park

In my last post, I ranted about how you shouldn’t give away your personal power by giving up on love. I’d like to expand on that with the following analogy… Love (and marriage) is like an Amusement Park. Imagine a child receiving the news that s/he will be spending the day at an amusement park. The child is delighted, right? Because amusement parks are exciting! Love is exciting. Picture the child arriving at the gate and eagerly paying the entrance fee. Love also requires you give something in order to enjoy the experience. Loose in the park, the child wonders, […]

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Stop Giving Away Your Personal Power!

Before I rant about personal power, a little background: My ex-husband wasn’t very compassionate. He had a low tolerance for any type of excuses, complaining, or personal pity parties. Whenever I attempted any of them, he’d get annoyed and say, “don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit.” I still hear his voice in the back of my head. Most recently, I heard it today when I read a post on social media that said something like, “I’ve decided I’m not worthy of love. I’ll be alone forever.” Oh, don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit, I thought. In the divorce/breakup groups, I see […]

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Jessica Hoffmann Family Docket

Interview: I Talked to Jessica Hoffmann, Founder and CEO of Family Docket

Family Docket is a wonderful way to help you stay organized and communicate more effectively during and beyond your divorce proceedings. I connected with Jessica Hoffmann, the program’s founder, on LinkedIn a few months ago. First, we scheduled some time to chat… then, I saw a demo of the program… and then, I recorded an interview with her so we could share this information with you. So, here’s a question:  Do you text with your ex? Most people do. And then they take screen shots of the more “interesting” conversations so they can send the communication to their lawyers. Does this […]

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