Divorce Gifts!

I’m so excited… yesterday I discovered Canada’s Divorce Fair.  Today I found out that a store in London is now accepting Divorce Registries (this, on the heels of the Divorce Vouchers)! Why don’t we have these things in the US? (Probably because there’s nationwide concern among a certain segment of the population that the availability of such options will sensationalize divorce.  And, we don’t want to do anything else to suggest the eroding sanctity of marriage….  Nevermind the unreasonable sensationalizing of marriage itself which is likely responsible for countless deficient marriages destined to become those divorces we want to avoid…. […]

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The Cost of Unhappiness?

I once encountered a professional acquaintance after not seeing her for several months.  Following the standard “hi-how-are-you” exchange, she told me she would soon be turning 65, but can’t afford to retire.  She went on to state that she married a man who likes to spend, not save, money.  She said she probably should have left him a long time ago…. …Wow, is she really telling me this?  Why is she telling me this?  She has no idea how I feel about this sort of thing… she’s not prepared for what I have to say….I don’t know her well enough […]

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A Better Way to Wed

I have this theory about why so many marriages fail.  Actually, I have several theories (please refer to Why Marry? and Why Marry? continued)… So, one of my other theories has to do with the way we treat weddings- as a society: When a couple decides to marry, they throw an engagement party (yay!) The pending matrimony is announced in the newspapers (fame!) Then, sometime before the wedding, someone throws another party for the Bride (yay!) As well, someone throws a party for the Groom (hurray!) The couple instructs everyone what gifts to buy them by registering at their favorite […]

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Marital Expectations

I’d been married for about a month and a half when my husband told me that I needed to start “taking on more wifely duties.”   WTF?!?!? “Excuse me?”  I asked, and then went on.  “You married me.  I’m the same person I was two months ago.” I found it absurd that the man I’d lived with for three years thought that I should suddenly morph into a five-star chef and meticulous housekeeper after the vows left my lips.  Turns out, it’s not so bizarre.  It should be, of course… but it’s not. For some reason, many people assume their partner […]

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