Your ex does not deserve your anger

Your Ex Does Not Deserve Your Anger

  Wounded women (and other fans of Carrie Underwood), sing it with me: “I dug my key into the side of his pretty little souped-up four wheel drive… Carved my name into his leather seeeeats I took a Louisville Slugger to both headlights, slashed a hole in all four tires. Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats…” Carrie’s song Before He Cheats hit the charts the year I got divorced. It brings to mind not only my ex-husband, but a couple ex-boyfriends as well. Of course I’ve fantasized about taking the kind of revenge described in the song. And according […]

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divorce takes teamwork

When Couples Approach Divorce As a Team

Divorce takes teamwork. In many ways, I think it takes even more teamwork to get divorced than it does to get married or stay married (many marriages survive on autopilot). Divorce brings questions, and issues that need to be worked out. Not at all limited to the following: Who gets the couch? Who pays the medical bills? What happens to the house? Who is going to explain this to the insurance company? Who does the filing? How to tell the kids? Etc. Believe it or not, it doesn’t have to be an ugly process. And it doesn’t have to cost a lot […]

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Healing Happens Within

Healing Happens Within

Healing is something that happens on the inside. At least at first. A few weeks ago, I cut my finger while slicing a sweet potato. Immediately, I wrapped the digit with gauze and applied pressure until the bleeding stopped. Stopping the blood flow was the first step in my body getting back to normal. And it happened under the surface, inside. I then spent the next few days with a Band Aid wrapped around my finger. The Band Aid was a boundary that protected the wound while my miraculous body repaired and regenerated tissue. All that healing happened on the inside. […]

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karma

Trust Karma

After the end of a relationship, there often lurks a nagging question about when The Ex will get what’s coming to him/her. You know what I’m talking about, don’t you? That’s right, Karma. When we think about karma, we tend to make assumptions. We hold expectations about what it means, and what it will look like. Overall we ask, “When will justice be served?” Sometimes, it’s a long wait. At least, as far as we can tell from where we stand. And I know it can be frustrating. But, I think the general idea of Karma works. That’s to say, “what […]

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Christine Gallagher

Christine Gallagher, Divorce Party Planner

Once upon a time, not long ago, those who divorced did so in the dark. They endured shame and blame. They did not flaunt their new Single Status. The idea of a divorce party was unthinkable. But times are changing (thankfully). These days, couples can be more creative when they divide their assets. There are various processes to choose from. There are different ways to share the home. Sometimes exes even continue to vacation together with their children and second spouses. And yes, there are new options to celebrate a divorce. For many years, I’ve been a proponent of divorce ceremonies: […]

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