Between Christmas and The New Year

The week between Christmas and the new year always feels strange to me. A few years ago, I heard someone on the radio say it’s the week that “doesn’t count.” At the time, I laughed in agreement.  Now I’m not so sure. This time at the end of the year is like the space between stories. It’s filled with an odd mix of quiet reflection and eager anticipation… soulful solitude and social gatherings… laughter and tears. During this week, we discard that which was once useful and we create space for what’s yet to come. And while we count down the days, hours, […]

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Book: An American Marriage

I discovered An American Marriage last month when the author, Tayari Jones, came to Harrisburg. She delivered the opening keynote for the 2018 Book Festival at the Midtown Scholar (worth a stop, if you’re ever in the area). At the last minute, I bought a ticket, drove downtown, and then waited in line. I received my copy of the novel on my way in the door, and then proceeded to the front row and waited an hour to hear the author speak. I began reading immediately, and was introduced to Roy Hamilton. As I turned the pages, I learned that Roy was wrongly accused […]

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Stop Giving Away Your Personal Power!

Before I rant about personal power, a little background: My ex-husband wasn’t very compassionate. He had a low tolerance for any type of excuses, complaining, or personal pity parties. Whenever I attempted any of them, he’d get annoyed and say, “don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit.” I still hear his voice in the back of my head. Most recently, I heard it today when I read a post on social media that said something like, “I’ve decided I’m not worthy of love. I’ll be alone forever.” Oh, don’t give me that woe-is-me bullshit, I thought. In the divorce/breakup groups, I see […]

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Guest Post: 5 Things I’ve Learnt After 10 Years Working With Divorcees

For more than a decade now, I’ve been helping people through their divorces. To the outside world, I complete legal documents, talk clients through the process and do all that I can to make sure that everything is processed as quickly as possible. As any professional working within this sector will tell you, though, your job description and your formal roles are only half the story: helping your clients through what is a tremendously stressful time is really your paramount concern Whilst no two individuals – and therefore no two divorces – are the same, experience has taught me that […]

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Divorce Lawyer Ramblings, An Interview with Frank Morris of Divorce Lawyers for Men

I discovered Divorce Lawyers for Men on Instagram. I was intrigued not only by the name, but also the helpful content they published. So, I asked for an interview, and a few months ago Frank Morris took some time out of his busy schedule to talk with me. After working around some technical difficulties, I was finally able to ask my first question: How did you get started in this line of work? “My first major interest in divorce was a complex male custody case back in 1984,” he told me. “And in those days nobody was doing male custody […]

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