Divorce Proposals

I discovered this video today…

World’s First Live Lip-Dub Divorce Proposal

…if you didn’t watch it, the gist of it is that some poor guy thought his wife was taking him out for an anniversary dinner.  But then she surprised him with an elaborately choreographed performance to let him know, “I wanna get a divorce”.

I have to wonder if it’s real.  It might not be.  But either way, it makes me think…

  • It’s almost funny.  The music is upbeat, the dancers are attractive and the message is catchy.  It looks like something you’d see on network television- haha, look at that poor guy!
  • Hurray- no shame!  This chick is obviously OK with her decision, and I applaud her for that.  I love to see people taking responsibility for the relationships in which they participate.
  • This wasn’t a split-second decision.  The video sends a message to all those finger-pointers who like to accuse divorcers of “taking the easy way out”:  this communication took thought, time, planning and practice.  Divorce isn’t a conclusion that’s arrived at easily (except, I think, when the marriage was entered into in just as thoughtful a manner).
  • Wait… doesn’t he deserve some privacy?  I think there were some things she forgot to consider.  Like, the fact that her husband is a human being.
  • This isn’t funny.  I wish it was.  I wish I could say I was happy to see such a loud, proud proclamation of self-confidence about a topic that has made people quiver, cringe and cry for hundreds of years.  But… it’s not funny because it represents a large-scale lack of respect for one side of the equation— and let us remember that equations are supposed to balance:  if you want to subtract some dignity from the other side, that means you remove it from your side as well.
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Such a proposal puts a new spin on the announcement phase of the Big D.  But, beyond that, I don’t see anything different… it’s just a bunch of war making and trash talking.  When the camera stopped rolling, Mr. Humiliated probably rallied under the encouragement of his pissed off friends and family.  He likely hired the best attorney he could afford.  At this moment, he and the STBX-Missus are knee-deep in bills they can’t pay until the house is sold. I’m sure their level of communication and cooperation has reached an all-time low.  (all conjecture, of course… if the hubby and wifey featured in this piece happen to be reading this, please contact me.  I’d love to interview you)

Divorce is a big deal.  It represents a time of real and raw honesty in order to make positive (albeit, often painful) changes.  It can be a breath of fresh air which gives birth to a wonderful new life.  But it takes teamwork to truly make the best of the situation.  If the divorce, like the marriage, is going to commence with music and merriment, then the former bride and groom deserve equal space on the dance floor.

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2 Comments

  1. Um, wow. I wanted to laugh and for it to be funny. But it’s really not, to your points. I however, DO like the riff on the little kid at the dentist ‘is this real life’ video, for the guy that just got divorced. That one makes me giggle, even though it probably shouldn’t 😉

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