Defenses = Damage

Have I ever mentioned that I’m one of those nerdy people who listens to audiobooks in the car? I am. Recently, I was listening to an old Deepak Chopra book and he was discussing the concept of aging- or rather, not aging. He stated that healthy relationships are a key to our longevity. And when discussing how to maintain healthy relationships, he suggested letting down our defenses. Because when you are defenseless, you are invincible (what? Isn’t that like letting people walk all over you?). When you are defenseless, there is nothing to attack (Oh, ok… now I get it).

In contemplating this, I am reminded of an argument I overheard several years ago…

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Good Reading

I don’t know if everyone surfs the divorce/blended family sites as much as I do. I thought I’d pass along a few good reads I’ve encountered over the past couple weeks.

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TDE Gets a Stepfamily

It’s no secret that I’m not a big fan of weddings. Over lunch last week, I asked some of Boyfriend’s co-workers why they attend such events. The answers varied:
“To meet drunken bimbos”
“To support the couple” (funny how soooo many people show up to “support” the couple at the wedding, but then disappear during a divorce when people really need support)
“To meet new people”
“To see people I haven’t seen in a long time”
“They’re fun. It’s a big party with drinks and dancing!”

On June 26, I attended a wedding because I was the daughter of the bride…

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