Who else learned today that Stepmother’s Day is on Sunday? This official (unofficial) holiday addresses some questions I posed in my last entry– about whether or not partners of parents wish to be recognized in the lives of their partner’s children.
Wednesday Martin, author of the book Stepmonster, wrote a good explanatory article for Psychology Today regarding the reasons why we should have a special day to recognize stepmoms. A history of how this day came to be can be found here.
Now… I get it. I understand why stepmothers should be/would want to be recognized for everything they do. And I understand that having a separate day would make it easier for the kids because it removes any conflicts regarding parental loyalty.
But after thinking about this new holiday, I’m not sure how I feel about it. Wouldn’t it set a better example if Mom and Stepmom learned to share? If we’re going to have a separate day for stepmothers, what about mothers-in-law? What about special aunts? Foster moms? What about those of us who are not-legally-recognized partners of parents? Do we really need another Greeting Card Holiday? If we have too many of these days, doesn’t it cheapen the significance of all of them? Aren’t we all important, every day?
Just thinking with my fingers…